Updated: May 2, 2022
Self-sabotaging is a form of standing in our way.
It prevents us from achieving what we want to do in our daily lives and what we plan to do in the future.
It interferes with our goals, relationships, finances, time, and behaviors.
Anything you do in excess to avoid uncomfortable emotions is considered overindulging. This can be in the form of binge watching, overeating, drug abuse, and drinking too much liquor.
Being a perfectionist can be healthy when it motivates you to perform your best. But it can often be toxic when you focus on avoiding criticism and failure. A perfectionist can have a difficult time making progress towards a goal because they expect approval and admiration from others based on their "perfect" performance, rather than genuine and unconditional love.
This is a way of avoiding taking action on something. Examples include keeping yourself from making a mistake, avoiding changes, or not being ready to make a decision about something serious.
Not all criticism is meant to be a bad thing, but it can become unhealthy when you're doing it constantly. When you start to think that you're not good enough, you lose your sense of self-worth and believe that you don't deserve what you desire.
LACK OF FORGIVENESS
We all make mistakes! That's how we learn about ourselves, and about life in general. Don't beat yourself up by constantly bringing up past mistakes and having fear of failure. Also, be sure to forgive others for their mistakes towards you. Holding onto past energy prevents you from moving forward.
When things go wrong, blaming others is a way of avoiding taking responsibility for your own life. It's only going to make things worse. Take responsibility for your actions to change the situation.
If you are experiencing any of these signs, then you could be suffering from self-sabotage. Understanding the cause of this behavior can help to find ways to solve it to reduce the stress and frequency it occurs.